We can never fathom the status and the importance of a mother; we can’t define what she is to us and what it means to have her.
Don’t you sometimes wonder how your mother has so much energy? We come back from work or school and that is it, we can’t be bothered to do anything for the rest of the evening. And then you have her, she has so much energy, at any hour of the day she’s electrifying. She has the power to wake up from her sleep to address your distress, the power to wake up at 2am to make you a snack, have a sleepless night and to still wake up before you to make you breakfast and prepare your lunch. She is basically a superwoman with powers like no other.
‘Wear extra layers it is really cold.’ – ‘Agh yes I know Mum.’
‘Take an umbrella son.’ – ‘No, I’ll be fine.’
‘When are you coming home?’ – ‘Why are you always on my case?’
What we fail to realise is that her nagging is nothing but care, so don’t reject her care, don’t ignore her care, don’t grunt at it, moan at it or roll your eyes at it because you would be lost without her care and her constant nagging. Don’t be that teenager who is embarrassed by their mother just to seem appealing in front of your friends when in reality you love being with her and she is your best friend. Walk with her, hold her and show the world that she is your source of power and joy.
We are so caught up in this fast-moving, so-called ‘busy’ world, we think that we are going through a struggle that our parents would never understand. That’s crazy! Every person has their own struggles, so don’t compare yours to theirs, don’t take for granted and ignore every single thing your parents have provided you with. She wants to keep up with technology and learn it from you, don’t tell her ‘Mum, you can’t do it, leave it’ – imagine if every time you wanted to learn something from her and she said that. Do not show impatience or frustration with the woman who has and will love you like no other being in this world.
When you were vulnerable as a baby, you mother was your protector and then guided you through life. Mothers are the centre point of a family, she is the backbone and without her, a family is lost. You mother has forgiven you for so many things so don’t ever be harsh with her when she makes a mistake, laugh it off. A mother will ignore all your flaws and only see your beauty, so be like your mother and ignore her flaws and see her beauty. The love of a mother is a debt you can never repay because she does it with her heart; it’s a default setting within mothers. So don’t ever delude yourself to think you can repay her. All you should do is love her, make her laugh, take care of her, make her smile, spend time with her and not complain or ignore her.
A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship?
The Prophet said: Your mother.
The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother.
The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother.
The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father.
Having read this, if your mother is under the same roof as you go hug her and be with her, spend time with her, appreciate her. If she is far away, call her and just tell her how much you love her and listen to her and don’t make it about yourself. If your mother is with God, then dedicate a wholehearted prayer for the woman that deserves more than we can comprehend in a lifetime:
And say, ‘My Lord, have mercy on them even as they nourished me in my childhood.’
P.S. You know that energy that is she has… it is slowly decreasing, she is getting older, and she is becoming weaker, so don’t realise her worth when she’s gone. Don’t leave her bearing a heavy heart with your harsh words; it may just be the last words she hears. It’s time we give back! Take this lesson further than just today and make it your default setting.